While being eager to explain ourselves we choose some different methods. Those methods can differ from time to time, from place to place, from occasion to occasion, from person to person, and many more things may affect those methods as well. But to be honest we either chose not to mention our skills, our talents, our improvements, and such things or to mention them. So which one do you think is the better option? Therefore, which one do you support ‘Discard yourself and thereby regain yourself. Spread the trap of humility and ensnare love.’ from Mevlânâ Celâleddîn-i Rûmî or ‘Underplaying yourself is not humility but foolishness,’ from Michel de Montaigne?
To start with in my opinion, most of the time we are mixing the concepts of being humble and underplaying ourselves. To explain furthermore of course I am not supporting the idea of bragging about ourselves most of the time although I believe underplaying ourselves wouldn’t make us gain something. What I mean by saying that is talking about ourselves has always been integrated as a bad thing for many many years by several societies. Eventually, after thinking about this concept by myself I realized that this is some type of relief for people who haven’t accomplished anything in this world which makes sense because I have never seen someone successful being offended by some other people’s accomplishments.
On the other hand, I believe Mevlana has a point as well. By saying that, I mean sometimes being silent and not needing to explain your worth is even more peaceful than constantly trying to explain yourself. Additionally, it is not a secret that the ones who love us without no benefits and no knowledge about us are the ones who love us unconditionally. So maybe it is a piece of good advice to use if we want some people to love us unconditionally.
To conclude I believe both Mevlana and Montaigne made very good points since they both analyzed and observed a lot. Even though I agree with them both at some point the saying I agree with the most is Montaigne’s saying about underplaying ourselves. And the reason is that I believe sometimes, especially in our social lives we should stand out a bit more and be aware of the importance of promoting ourselves even though it may seem wrong or weird to many people but at the end of the day, I believe it would a hundred percent be more beneficial to us.